A response to: Dude, You’ve Got Problems
“ I went to a conference on bisexuality about 15 years ago. A woman there said to me, “I wish you gay men would stop putting your energy into fighting homophobia and instead put your energy into eradicating misogyny. Because the problem society has with gay men isn’t that they’re with other men – it’s that they’re men who are “acting like women.” If it were ok to be a woman in this culture, homophobia would just disappear.” I think she’s right.”
Dude, You’ve Got Problems
Hmmm…. her argument isn’t very prismatic “fighting misogyny in stead of homophobia” and her conclusion is a bit simplistic “homophobia would disappear.” But I do think that there is a very insightful observation in this quote. When we step outside of prescribed gender roles it disrupts the dominant culture. I welcome the challenge to shift. I’d argue that by emulating, celebrating and nurturing complex gender expression we will “fight” both misogyny and homophobia.